So by now you have started to see a few posts on goal setting, and of course I am joining the foray. There are many people that will tell you to set “reasonable” goals that you can easily accomplish. I am not one of those people. I believe a goal is something that you need to work at over the course of the year or at least a few months. If you are setting goals that can be accomplished by the end of January or February then you have just created a to do list!
Indeed goals are set at the beginning of the year by lots of people and called “new years resolutions.” That comes with a connotation of “what I’m going to fail at this year.” I genuinely think people are well intentioned in their goal/resolution setting, but fail to enact a plan for accomplishing their resolutions. Let me give you 4 steps to effective goal setting:
Like I mentioned earlier, you want to stretch yourself. I definitely don’t suggest creating ultra lofty goals, but stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone. I have definitely taken the new approach that anything is possible. I have decided that I can and will be successful, but I know I must do more than I am already doing. Now I realize that some of you may feel like you are stretched to the max, believe me I understand. I know what it is like to work a full time job, and a part time job, give time to family, all while trying to get your passion of the ground! I also know that if I don’t/didn’t take the necessary steps to move forward with my goals I would find myself in the same situation next year equally unhappy about the lack of progress.
2. WRITE THEM DOWN
Yes, I am aware of the all CAPS rule. So once again: WRITE YOUR GOALS DOWN!!!!!!!! This is an area where I have struggled in the past. Writing your goals down gives them so much more power. You are creating a road map to your success. You can see what the “finished” product looks like (well at least for this set of goals,) and you can tell how well you are staying on that path. When I write my goals out I look at it as a contract with myself, my future self to be exact. I know that time will pass regardless of what I decide to do or not do, so might as well make the most of it. People who we look up to for their successes didn’t get there by chance. They planned and executed their plan.
3. Review your plan (goals)
Frequently reviewing your plan will help you align your behaviors to your goals. In fact I feel this is the key step to accomplishing what you set out to do. I recommend reviewing your goals at least once a month. I prefer to go over them once a week. As I am planning my week and laying out what is important, I want to have a road map of where I am going. It helps me accept or reject certain requests, and helps me keep focused on what I want to accomplish. A lot of things we do are good, but I want to stick with doing the Best. Don’t allow someone else’s dream to interfere with you accomplishing yours.
4. Involve others
Tell people your plan. Yes, you will have detractors, people who tell you this is impossible, they may even call you crazy. Especially when you are starting out you will have plenty of people ready to mock your path, a lot of these people may be your own dear friends. It is not their goal to hurt you, but rather they are trying to save you from yourself. Since they don’t feel it is possible for them, they “know” it is not possible for you. I have friends tell me to strop dreaming so big and just focus on working and paying my bills and having fun with my family. Well I definitely am glad that I have a job and can pay my bills and am allowed time with my family, yet I feel as if there is more to this experience we call life. Now I’m not trying to get all philosophical but I have noticed those that go out and do it didn’t let anything get in their way. Nothing kept them down, if they failed they got back up, went the wrong way, tried again. The more you tell people your desires, and begin living like you are on that path, the more this will sink into who you are.
Accomplishing your goals takes planning, time, review, and charisma. Allow yourself to be freed from the bondage of fear. Push forward and make something happen for yourself and your family. I don’t think that anything can stop you if you want it bad enough. Work your strengths, realize your weaknesses, and work it ‘till you have given your all. As I hear a lot of the kids saying YOLO (you only live once) which was true before the funny acronym. You get one shot at this life, make it count!!!!!
What are some of your goals for the upcoming year? Let me know in the comments!!!!!